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Regret Over Guilt

By Charlene Rayburn

sign - oopsThis week I gained a deeper understanding of the distinction that Am I Hungry?® makes between guilt and regret. When I first read about it in Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat, I appreciated the message about how feeling guilty can drive the Overeating Cycle, and how feeling regretful can help us not miss the lesson and make better choices in the future. Making that shift is truly an act of self-compassion.

What is really sinking in for me is the next layer of comprehension that guilt is fundamentally an act of self-punishment because of the elements of self-blame and shame that are entwined with it. It can only be an obstacle to our progress. Regret, however, is not cyclical. It is a series of occurrences of observation, awareness, self-forgiveness, and wisdom with each of these being clean, clear steps of self-love and self-improvement.

I’m adding this to my list of learnings that not only help me in my mindful eating exercises, but my mindful living practices as well. I’m again grateful for how this program enriches my life every single day!


About the author

Charlene Rayburn, CVCC, lives her passion for mindfulness and intentional leadership by serving as a personal and professional leadership coach, by managing a department of dedicated employees for a Fortune 500 sized health insurance organization, and by facilitating Am I Hungry?® workshops and coaching sessions. She has coached extensively with individuals and groups outside the corporate world, as well as with executives, leaders, and teams in non-profit, private, public, governmental, and educational organizations spanning the globe. Charlene received her coaching certificate through the Center for Coaching Mastery at Coachville, LLC, and earned a Bachelor of Business Administration Degree in Management from Davenport University. She is a member of the National Management Association. One of her most emotionally challenging and rewarding experiences was serving as a volunteer at the Center for Battered Women. Charlene currently lives in Michigan and enjoys spending time with her husband of over 20 years, reading, learning, cooking, practicing yoga, and watching her grandson grow, who lives with his dad, her stepson in Fort Worth, Texas.

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