The energy in the room shifted noticeably. My request was met with a mixture of surprise, audible groans, nervous giggles, outright rebellion, and even frank hostility.<\/p>\n
You see, by this point in the retreat, we had bonded around the common goals of breaking free from the eat-repent-repeat cycle, improving our health, and pursing a vibrant life fueled by fearless, pleasurable eating.<\/p>\n
I had made it very clear that none of those goals could be measured on a scale. Yet here I was inviting them to step on.<\/p>\n
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As the first person, Kim, tentatively approached the scale, she set her jaw, slipped off her shoes, and stepped on. When she looked down, relief and a huge smile spread across her face.<\/p>\n
Instead of some arbitrary number, the verdict read, “Sexy.”<\/p>\n
Soon, everyone in the room was excitedly lining up to step on the Yay! Scale<\/a> created by Marilyn Wann (and unfortunately, no longer available to purchase). They wanted to discover whether they “weighed in” as perfect, ravishing, cute, lovely, etc. What a difference there was in the energy in the room!<\/p>\n We laughed as some of them still insisted on taking off their shoes!<\/p>\n Afterward, we talked about the negative impact that focusing on weight has had on us in the past. Despite the conventional wisdom that weighing yourself daily is helpful, nearly everyone had found just the opposite.<\/p>\n Not surprisingly, some of the common weight-related themes were:<\/p>\n We talked about the sources of body dissatisfaction and the effect that negative body image has on our day to day lives. Several people expressed fear that if they accepted themselves the way they are right now, they wouldn’t make positive changes to improve their eating and physical activity. To learn more about this, read Do You Have a Fear of Self-Acceptance?<\/a><\/p>\n As we explored the fear of self-acceptance, it became obvious that many people had already given up way too much of their personal energy and power to a rectangle on the floor that measures the force of gravity. It was clearly hurting, not helping<\/em>.<\/p>\n I introduced them to the Health at Every Size\u00ae (HAES) principles<\/a> and read my story, Michelle Goes On a Diet…that Lasted 20 Years – A Cautionary Tale<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n We all agreed that a more deserving use of our energy was learning to eat fearlessly and mindfully in order to fuel the vibrant lives we crave and deserve.<\/p>\n We then did a mirror activity and I explained:<\/p>\n When you speak or think negatively about your body, it hears you! We concluded the session with a little journaling “homework” you may find helpful too:<\/p>\n You’ve been talking to your body for a long time. Now let your body talk back! Write a letter from your body to let you know how it feels and what it really<\/em> wants.<\/strong><\/p>\n Open the letter from your body with:<\/p>\n Dear __________<\/em> (your name),<\/p>\n Allow your body to express hurt, anger, or sadness about the things you’ve thought, said, or felt about it in the past. Let it talk about the effects of those thoughts and words. Then move on to let your body tell you what it really wants from you: unconditional love and acceptance, a variety of nutritious and<\/em> delicious foods, joyful movement, rest, play, and\/or other specific requests. (Note: Be aware that messages like “lose weight” are probably coming from your brain, not your body. Bodies aren’t particularly fond of losing weight since your body interprets that as a stressful, risky state.)<\/p>\n End the letter with:<\/p>\n Love, Updated from a previously published version.<\/em><\/p>\n Is Am I Hungry? weight-neutral?<\/a><\/p>\n Ending internalized weight stigma<\/a><\/p>\n Mindful Eating and Weight Loss: Setting the record straight<\/a><\/p>\nWhy we hate the scale<\/h2>\n
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