I decided to write an article about the differences between intuitive eating, mindful eating, HAES (Health at Every Size), and Am I Hungry? because I often come across confusion, misuse, and sometimes even abuse, of these concepts in the media and in the health and wellness field so I hoped that some clarification would be helpful.
As I was writing, I kept hitting a brick wall: There is confusion for a reason; it is confusing.
My son once told me, “When you hit a brick wall, focus on one brick.” (Wise advice from a 20 -something!) Yesterday, that brick fell on my head.
Through Twitter and the blogosphere, I heard about an article by Jess Weiner, whose books promoted body-acceptance following her recovery from an eating disorder. The title of this controversial article was typically Glamour-dramatic: Jess Weiner’s Weight Struggle: “Loving My Body Almost Killed Me.”
The brick? Weiner’s problematic article made it clear that I needed to start with what intuitive eating, mindful eating, and HAES (Health at Every Size) have in common – and rest assured, none of them will kill you! So let me start over…
What do intuitive eating, mindful eating, HAES, and Am I Hungry? have in common?
Intuitive eating, mindful eating, HAES (Health at Every Size), and Am I Hungry? (and others) are all part of a rapidly growing non-diet movement. For the record, I’m not a big fan of naming something by what it’s not, but while there are definite differences in these approaches, that umbrella title points to one of the areas of overlap:
Restrictive dieting that requires an individual to follow arbitrary rules created by someone else is ultimately futile, counterproductive, and even harmful.
I”ve been teaching workshops, speaking, and writing in this field (yes, I believe it has even become a field) for the last 12 years, and I am thrilled to say that this rejection of dieting as a solution for anything has grown louder and more urgent (can you say outcry?). Those of us laboring passionately in this field are no longer on the fringe; we are on the leading edge – and rapidly finding ourselves smack dab in the middle of an outright revolution!
Clearing the air
I do not speak for the entire non-diet movement (for lack of a better term), but what struck me about Weiner’s article was her obvious confusion on three major points:
- Loving your body does not mean avoiding medical care or ignoring self-care, and it doesn’t mean abdicating personal responsibility for making meaningful and sustainable changes that are beneficial for your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
- Weiner’s labs were in no way life-threatening nor was there any evidence that her “arteries were quickly clogging.” There is no such thing as pre-pre-diabetes and as Deb Burgard eloquently pointed out on the HealthAtEverySizeBlog, weight-bias is prevalent in the medical profession. My colleagues would have been unlikely to sound an alarm with labs like her’s in a thin person. Instead, they would have (hopefully) recommended sound nutrition and physical activity – good advice for health at EVERY size.
- Since Weiner’s labs were mildly abnormal, improved nutrition and physical activity are the perfect prescription. Weight loss may or may not result from those changes, but they are still beneficial and worthwhile. Lecturing, restricting, depriving, obsessing, and shaming are the worst prescription I know of.
I applaud Weiner’s decision to take charge of her own decisions regarding her health, especially, “seeing a therapist to work on the emotional baggage I carry and how it plays a part in the way I turn to food for solace, not nutrition.” I’m just sad to hear that she thought that loving her body was preventing her from doing all that. And I certainly hope she’s not going to start trying to tell the rest of us how many ingredients and how much sugar we should be eating.
On one point, I think we can all agree with Weiner: “To truly love my body, I had to treat it better.” Now that is good advice for EVERY body!