Before every action there is a fleeting moment with the power of choice. Read on to learn how to identify and access the power of the pause.
The power of the pause
In order to access the power in the gap, you must pause.
Think about it. When you don’t pause to consider the present moment, and instead react mindlessly, your brain has no choice but to re-act – in other words, to repeat past actions.
No wonder you keep getting the same results!
Enter the pause
The most challenging part is the most simple: Remembering to pause.
A lot of us spend most of our lives in autopilot mode. Like one of those perpetual motion toys, just push start and off we go bouncing from one thing to the next without thinking about why we are doing the things we do. Not until afterward anyway.
Maybe you’re in autopilot mode right now.
If you are, pause.
Take a slow, deep breath. Feel your chest and belly expand as your lungs fill with life-giving air. Exhale.
Inhale and exhale again. This time, listen. Look. See. Feel.
Notice everything around you as if it were for the first time. Because the truth is, you are experiencing this moment for the first—and the last—time.
When you did this little exercise, what did you notice that you weren’t aware of even a few moments earlier? What did you hear that you hadn’t noticed before? What in your surroundings did you see for the first time today?
I bet you were surprised. Isn’t it amazing how much new information you discovered in that brief pause?
Pause before eating
Now imagine this scenario: You’re in the kitchen standing in front of the refrigerator because you feel like eating.
Instead of just acting on autopilot and starting to eat, remember to pause instead. In addition to the desire to eat, notice what else is happening right now. Think back to the exercise you just did… What other information is available to help you decide what to do next?
One of the many skills we teach in Eat What You Love Love What You Eat and Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat with Diabetes is the Body-Mind-Heart Scan.
This skill is particularly valuable when you feel like eating but aren’t sure whether it’s from physical hunger or head hunger. When you take a moment to pause to become fully present and mindful, you can better identify your true needs.
Pause: If possible, close your eyes for a moment. Take a few deep breaths and calm yourself. Be aware that being near food or thinking about eating might cause you to feel excited or anxious, making it more difficult to identify the signs of hunger. By taking a few calming breaths first, you’ll reconnect your body and mind, making it easier to focus on important sensations and feelings.
Body: In your mind’s eye, scan your body from head to toe.
- What physical sensations are you aware of? Are you thirsty or tired? Are you aware of any tension, discomfort, or pain? Does your body feel good?
- Ask yourself, “Am I hungry?“ Connect with your body by placing your hand on your upper abdomen, just below your rib cage.
- Picture your stomach. Think of a balloon and try to imagine how full it is. When empty, your stomach is about the size of your fist and can stretch several times that size when full. Are there pangs or gnawing sensations? Is there any growling or rumbling? Does your stomach feel empty, full, or even stuffed? Perhaps you don’t feel your stomach at all.
- Notice other physical sensations. Do you feel edgy, light-headed, or weak? Are these signals coming from hunger, low blood sugar, or something else? This is a great opportunity to become mindful of your body’s signals and reconnect with your inner self.
Mind: Without judgment, notice what you are thinking. Often, your thoughts will give you clues about whether or not you’re hungry.
For example, if you find yourself rationalizing or justifying what you are about to eat, it may indicate that you aren’t hungry.
If you’re thinking things like, “It’s been three hours since lunch, so I should be hungry,” or “I might not have time to eat later,” you may be looking for a reason to eat. If you have any doubts about whether you’re hungry, you probably aren’t.
Heart: What emotions are you experiencing now? What feelings are you aware of? When you pause to become aware of your emotions, you are better able to see if they are affecting your desire to eat and even what or how much you want to eat.
Like any new skill, the Body-Mind-Heart Scan becomes more natural with practice. The key is to pause and discover the power in this present moment!
(This article was first published in 2012 and has been updated.)
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