Do you struggle with how to accept yourself as you are? The first step is simple, though not easy: Notice your self-talk.
Self-acceptance begins when you notice your self-talk
My yoga teacher said, “Whatever you practice, you get good at. If your habit is to compare, judge, and criticize yourself, then you’ll get better and better at it. You will strengthen your habit.”
That really resonated with me. I had subjected myself to 25 years of yo-yo dieting fueled by rejection of my Self. And I barely noticed I was doing it.
Wishing I were somehow different and focusing on numbers like calories and pounds only distracted me from living my life fully. It took away my peace of mind and my focus. When I started practicing mindful eating, everything changed.
Unfortunately, many of us have been convinced that the only way to be healthy is to focus on the numbers. Somehow, we have convinced ourselves that we deserve a life focused on what we eat and what we look like instead of living our lives. And when we don’t measure up, we say some really terrible things to ourselves.
Improving your well-being doesn’t have to be that way. It shouldn’t be that way!
We waste a tremendous amount of energy beating ourselves up—energy that could otherwise be poured into building relationships, accomplishing other meaningful goals, or simply enjoying life.
The problem is that it is such a habit, we don’t even notice we’re doing it!
I am so over that.
Along my personal and professional journey, I’ve learned that self-acceptance breeds self-care. When you begin to notice your self-talk that is harming you and keeping you stuck in old behaviors, you can practice more gentle self-talk.
While it may seem counterintuitive, I also discovered that self-acceptance is the starting line for change. Only when you learn how to accept yourself as you are right now can you being to make choices that support the life you crave!
Now I choose to practice loving my Self gently, compassionately, mindfully, and persistently.
Learn how to accept yourself
Do you love the one you spend the most time with? Want to learn how?
Please join me on this six-step journey to learn how to accept yourself as you are and create a new habit to truly “love the one you’re with!”
Today, start by increasing your awareness and noticing your self-talk. Share what you notice in the comments below:
Is your habit to compare, judge, and criticize yourself? Do you struggle with loving—or even accepting yourself—as you are? Why? How do you feel and and what happens when you talk to yourself this way?
Ready for the next step? Self-Acceptance Step 2: Accept yourself as you are right now
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This article was updated from a previous version.