Most people who binge eat do so alone, in secret. They feel guilty and ashamed and go to great lengths to hide their behaviors from others. They feel out of control and know they need help, yet the secretive nature of the problem just might prevent them from getting it!
Dieting is like walking a tightrope. One misstep and it’s all over! On the other hand, mindful eating is a wide path that’s nearly impossible to fall off of. You have the flexibility and options so you can make decisions based on what you want and need in any given situation.
Over the years, the habit of eating forbidden foods in secrecy became more and more engrained. Every time I unconsciously ate in solitude and hid the evidence, I built layers of shame over one of my basic human needs: eating for enjoyment.
it can be hard to ignore the call of those brightly colored bags of candy. This is especially true if you trick yourself, saying it’s for the kids when it’s really for you. If you’ve deprived yourself of all things sweet, cravings for candy only grow stronger.
I cringe when someone says, “I am an emotional eater” or “I am a binger.” That stake in the ground is awfully hard to pull out. When you define yourself by your actions, you leave little room for other options.
Trying to be free from emotions that might trigger unwanted behaviors rather than mindfully experiencing them may actually strip of us the potential to discover valuable information our emotions can give us about ourselves and our lives.
During our last Am I Hungry? Mindful Eating for Binge Eating Retreat, I was surprised to find out that 40% had already had bariatric (weight loss) surgery! They shared their experiences to help others who had BED and bariatric surgery.
Getting a truer picture of the association between weight and BED can help us challenge misinformation that we come across. More important, it helps us focus on treating the underlying binge eating disorder without being distracted by one’s weight.