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My Perfect Weight

By Charlene Rayburn

woman lounging on couchMy perfect weight is exactly the weight I am right now. I have only recently begun to truly believe this and I experienced one of the widest pendulum swings of confusion before settling here.

What makes it perfect is not the reading on the scale, but rather the beautiful peacefulness of self-acceptance. My body is the only one of its kind…past, present and future. It is a unique culmination of my genes, metabolism, experiences, beliefs, and choices. It is the amazing physical form I get to live this life in, and I have never accepted it, appreciated it, and indeed, loved it more than I do on this very day. This totally defies our current cultural meme, because it is older and has a few more wrinkles, carries a few more scars, and doesn’t ideally match the shape and mass defined by society as suitable.

But, through the Am I Hungry? community, I have become aware of the misconceptions and misinformation promoted by the media and some health professionals, and have learned how to experience freedom from them.

Being the perfect weight does not mean finding a certain number on a scale and fighting hard to stay there; and it doesn’t mean it will stay steady. Rather, being the perfect weight is exactly the weight we are right now. My weight has varied throughout my lifetime and I now know that it was perfect when I was younger; it was perfect when I started the Am I Hungry? program; it is perfect now; and it will be perfect wherever it settles or fluctuates, because it is the body in which I will practice mindful eating, mindful moving, and mindful living!


About the author

Charlene Rayburn, CVCC, lives her passion for mindfulness and intentional leadership by serving as a personal and professional leadership coach, by managing a department of dedicated employees for a Fortune 500 sized health insurance organization, and by facilitating Am I Hungry?® workshops and coaching sessions. She has coached extensively with individuals and groups outside the corporate world, as well as with executives, leaders, and teams in non-profit, private, public, governmental, and educational organizations spanning the globe. Charlene received her coaching certificate through the Center for Coaching Mastery at Coachville, LLC, and earned a Bachelor of Business Administration Degree in Management from Davenport University. She is a member of the National Management Association. One of her most emotionally challenging and rewarding experiences was serving as a volunteer at the Center for Battered Women. Charlene currently lives in Michigan and enjoys spending time with her husband of over 20 years, reading, learning, cooking, practicing yoga, and watching her grandson grow, who lives with his dad, her stepson in Fort Worth, Texas.


  1. rivkah bergman says:

    Sounds like you are on to something. Not obsessing about weight, but doing positive small steps to change your food intake is one of the first steps.

  2. Rivkah,
    Yes, it does feel like I’m on to something, and that something feels like a healthier, more natural relationship with food. It is truly a pleasure (and the answer I’ve long sought) to mindfully eat what I love and love what I eat. Thank you very much for your comment. I appreciate it.

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