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The Big Lie: When-Then

By Michelle May, M.D.

What are you waiting for?Perhaps you’ve told yourself some version of this popular lie: When (something happens), then (I’ll do, feel, or be something different). Here are just a few examples, though you probably have some of your own – please share them in the comments section below!

  • When I lose weight, then I’ll be happy.
  • When my kids start school, then I’ll start exercising.
  • When my kids are in college, then I’ll make more time for friends.
  • When I retire, then I’ll travel.
  • And my personal favorite: When I finish this project, then I’ll finally be caught up and I can relax!

Here at Am I Hungry? Mindful Eating Programs and Training we often encounter this When/Then lie in this form: When I’m done with this diet, then I’ll figure out what this mindful eating thing is all about.

The problem is that often the when never arrives and/or the then never happens. In the meantime we’re postponing our lives and missing other possibilities. If and when when comes, we simply replace it with another when. Day by day, promise by promise, our lives slip away.

Don’t check your body, mind, or spirit at the door while you wait for the elusive when/then. What are you waiting for? Your life is this present moment and the time is now!


About the author

Michelle May, M.D. is a recovered yo-yo dieter and the founder of the Am I Hungry?® Mindful Eating Programs and Training. She is the award-winning author of Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat: A Mindful Eating Program to Break Your Eat-Repent-Repeat Cycle , winner of seven publishing awards. She is also the author of Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat with Diabetes, Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat for Binge Eating, and Am I Hungry? Mindful Eating for Bariatric Surgery. Michelle shares her compelling message and constructive keynotes with audiences around the country, offers workplace wellness programs, and has trained and licensed hundreds of health professionals to facilitate Am I Hungry?® Mindful Eating Programs worldwide. She has been featured on Dr. Oz, the Discovery Health Channel, and Oprah Radio, and quoted in Diabetic Living, Fitness, Health, Huffington Post, Parents, Self, USA Weekend, US News & World Report, WebMD and many others. Her personal success story was published in Chicken Soup for the Dieter's Soul. Michelle cherishes her relationships with her husband, Owen and grown children, Tyler and Elyse. She regularly enjoys practicing yoga and hiking near her home in Phoenix, Arizona. She and Owen, a professional chef, share a passion for gourmet and healthful cooking, wine tasting, photography, and traveling.

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