Although my “kids” are in their twenties, I can’t wait to see the new Disney Pixar “emotion picture,” Inside Out because learning to notice the “voices” inside of our heads is one of the essential steps in recovery from Binge Eating Disorder (BED).
I haven’t seen Inside Out yet, but I already love the concept. Giving our emotions voices, personalities, and characteristics can help us detach from them enough to be able to look at them more objectively with curiosity. In fact, we use this technique in the therapy group portion of the Am I Hungry? Mindful Eating for Binge Eating Program and Retreat.
Let me set this up for you. In this excerpt from Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat for Binge Eating (page 70), we write:
Watching thoughts and choosing which ones to pay attention to is a powerful way to interrupt an automatic sequence of events. However, it can be challenging at first because people who struggle with binge eating may be in the habit of judging their thoughts, leading to an emotionally charged internal dialogue. It may seem like there’s an angel sitting on one shoulder and a devil sitting on the other. They whisper in your ears like an old cartoon: good versus evil.
My Binge Voice
During the therapy group, participants are asked to give their Binge Voice, Restrictive Voice, and Self-Care Voice names, personalities, and a voice. We all had a good laugh when one retreat participant said her Binge Voice sounds like this very insistent character from Family Guy:
Developing a Self-Care Voice
A participant in our research study on the Mindful Eating for Binge Eating Program shared the pictures she had drawn of her Binge Voice, Restrictive Voice, and Self-Care Voice.
My Binge Voice
My Restrictive Voice
My Self-Care Voice
The point of all of this is to become more objectively aware of the thoughts, beliefs, memories, and feelings that sit at the control panel of your mind, pushing your buttons and controlling your behaviors. With this awareness, you can choose which voice to pay attention to and nurture.
Taking an inside out approach to binge eating to heal your relationship with food and your body ultimately means nurturing your Self-Care Voice who is unconditionally compassionate, validating, and has your highest good at heart. The Self-Care voice mediates the dialogue between the Binge Voice and the Restrictive Voice, encouraging your to trust and choose your true nature.
In my next post, I’ll talk about one of the tools in chapter 5 of Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat for Binge Eating to help you make the connection between what you feel and what you need.